A Lesson Learned

      Spanking should be practiced as a disciplinary measure to indicate to children the severity of their own misbehavior. Children are very impressionable and it is our job as parents to teach them respect and right from wrong. They are just like a sponge and can soak in any information around them. For this reason, some families use spanking only as a serious consequence brought on by a serious misbehavior. Some children are naturally stubborn and using the alternative methods, such as time outs, just does not work. Children abuse time outs by constantly getting up and not taking a parent seriously. In these type of circumstances spanking in conjunction with this alternative method my be necessary. A spanking may also be a form of punishment in a dangerous situation. To illustrate, if a child was about to touch a hot stove a slap to the hand lets a child know this was a serious misbehavior. Children have to learn that certain behaviors are not okay and they have to make better choices. We have to show our children that we are serious and stand behind our choice of punishment. According to Elizabeth Gershoff a leading researcher on physical punishment, “Part of the problem is good discipline isn't quick and easy” (Gershoff 2012). It is never easy for a parent to spank a child but it is a way to teach them respect and responsibility. This is a technique that takes time and the child will eventually learn.


      As parents we are here to protect our children at the same time being able to exhibit love. This is why it is essential to have a good relationship and communication between the parent and a child. Children can develop negative feelings once they are spanked, just like with any means of punishment. To help eliminate these feelings once a spanking has been delivered the parent should do a couple of extra steps. The parent should communicate and explain why they were spanked. This helps a child to understand the reason for their punishment and their consequence. To help keep a healthy relationship between the two, a parent should verbally or physically show that the child is loved at the end of the punishment. This helps to let the child know that even when I am misbehaving mommy and daddy still loves me. Building a trusting relationship can help children know that spanking or any punishment is not done out of anger but love and to show them the severity behind certain misbehavior.

                                                                 




(Reason 3, Word count 380)


Sources:


Slade Ph. D, Eric. “Spanking in Early Childhood and Later Behavior Problems”. Pediatrics for Parents. 2012. Web. 30 October 2013.


 Smith, Brendan. "The Case Against Spanking". American Psychological Association. Vol 43. No 4. April 2012.Web. 18 October 2013.
   

Spanking: A successful and beneficial form of punishment

      Spanking can be a successful and beneficial discipline method if utilized correctly. How many times have you heard the expression, “I was spanked as a child and I came out fine”. I believe there is some truth to that statement. Spanking is one of the most widely known and used punishments of school aged children. Since the 1940's when studies first started, it has been found that majority of people have been spanked and occasionally spank their children. According to studies, nine out of every ten preschool aged kids from two to six year old have been spanked at least once in the past week. In 1990 George Holden, a psychology professor at Southern Methodist University, conducted research that show 90% of all parents use spanking as a form of punishment. 70% of the study participants were college educated women. However, these numbers have decreased since times have changed. As a parent and a supporter of spanking, I use this method when necessary as one of the forms of discipline in my home. As parents, we try to limit or correct any negative behaviors that children exhibit. Spanking has shown to be effective on a short term basis in getting a child to change those behaviors.


      Alternative methods are successful in some children. However, some kids are difficult to discipline with milder methods so spanking may be necessary in those situations. According to Robert Lazalere Ph.D who studies parental discipline, “Some kids are difficult to parent. At times they simply won't stay in a time out and they can not be reasoned with. That's where conditional spanking comes into play” (Lazalere 2012). In recent studies spanking has shown to be very effective when used in conjunction with the milder methods such as time out and reasoning. For example, if a child exhibited a bad behavior use time out first. If the child resist time out than use spanking to enforce the punishment. After that make sure to reason and explain your actions. This has personally been a success in my home but you definitely need to communicate with your child.


      There are other factors to consider for spanking to be beneficial. A good home environment and relationship between the parent and the child is essential when spanking is the choice of discipline. If the home environment and relationship is not good a child might perceive the punishment as violence instead of a consequence of their behavior. One benefit of spanking is that it can teach respect and teach children to take responsibility for their actions. For this reason, is why I enforce this discipline in my home. When I spank my kids they know they have done something serious enough for that consequence. A parent can gain the most benefits of spanking when they lovingly and rationally explain the reason for their actions. If a parent uses spanking appropriately it can be a great tool for teaching children right from wrong.






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Spanking: A Controversial Issue

      Spanking has been a controversial form of punishment amongst many for some time. Spanking, also known as physical punishment, is something everyone is probably familiar with. It is a tool commonly used to eliminate negative behavior in children. In the older days children were told to go outside and get a switch off of the tree when they were being bad. In other circumstances, parents did not need the switch. When children were misbehaving they were put over their parent's knee and smacked across the bare bottom. The majority of people ,at some point in their life, have been spanked as a form of punishment in some type of way. It may seem as a normal means of punishment for children, however it has recently raised attention among some parents and others. People are now questioning if spanking is the right kind of punishment to correct our children. Personally I am a supporter of spanking. I was spanked as a child and I carry the tradition on with my children when needed. Spanking is viewed very differently among people, countries, and cultures. There are actually countries that have banned spanking as a form of punishment to protect children. Children are going to be children. They are going to be mischievous and get into trouble.

      As parents, it is our responsibility to use the appropriate form of punishment to correct the behavior. Researchers have started studies to inquire if spanking our children is doing more harm to them than good. A lot of parents are starting to wonder the same thing. Some studies have shown possible long term mental effects on children. According to psychology professor Sandra Graham-Bermann, “It's a very controversial area even though the research is extremely telling and very clear and consistent about the negative effects on children” (Graham-Bermann 2012). Some of the negative effects that spanking can have on children are still begin studied to this day. Who would have thought something that is so common and has been done for generations can now be such a controversial issue? This has caused researchers to take a closer look at physical punishment on children. It has also caused parents to take a second look at using physical punishment on their own children. The arguments that I have studied have not changed my opinion regarding spanking. I will continue to use spanking ,as needed, as one of my methods of discipline in my home

      Furthermore, many people feel that physical punishment is not the appropriate action to use to correct a child. They believe that alternative methods such as time out, positive reinforcement, and loss of privileges are better discipline tools to modify behavior. In contrast, some parents still feel that spanking can be a successful tool for punishment if utilized correctly and they still practice it today. Remember that any discipline method parents choose to use it has to be for the best interest of the child.

                                                             

(Central Argument 404)

Refereneces:

 Smith, Brendan. "The Case Against Spanking". American Psychological Association. Vol 43. No 4. April 2012.Web. 18 October 2013.

Is Spanking the right kind of punishment?

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